The Detour
For when you’re sick of your ex calling the shots and are ready to handle it differently
The relationship ended.
But your ex is still calling the shots and leaving you to pick up the pieces.
Your ex makes a decision, changes the plan, tells the kids something without telling you, assumes you'll cover it, and somehow you end up dealing with the fallout. Again.
Not because you're weak. Not because you don't know better. But because nobody has ever shown you exactly how this pattern works or what to do to stop it.
That's what The Detour does. Three focused videos that will completely change how you handle these interactions.
Sound familiar?
You draft a message, delete it, redraft it, and lie awake at midnight still not knowing what to say.
You agree to something you didn't want to agree to, just to stop the back and forth. And then spend three days furious about it.
You try to hold your ground and suddenly you're the difficult one, the selfish one, the reason all of this is so hard.
You sort things that aren't yours to sort, because the alternative is your kids paying the price. And you can't let that happen.
You know exactly what you want to say. You just don't know how to say it without it making everything worse.
This is the pattern. And these three videos are going to show you exactly why it keeps happening and what to do differently.
What changes when you watch this…
You’ll stop second-guessing yourself every time a message arrives
You'll know how to tell the difference between a situation where you have power and one where you don't, and stop wasting energy on the wrong one
You'll have a simple, clear response for unilateral decisions — one message, no explanation, no spiral
You'll stop taking the bait when the blame comes, because you'll know what it actually is
You'll stop feeling like you have to choose between protecting your children and holding your ground
None of this requires your ex to change. None of it depends on them becoming reasonable. It all sits entirely within your control.
This is for you if….
Your ex announces, assumes, or informs — and somehow it always becomes your problem to sort
You say yes to keep the peace, and spend the next three days furious about it
You know what you want to say, but you don't know how to say it without it turning into a war
Every time you try to hold a boundary, you end up being told you're the difficult one
You're exhausted from a pattern you didn't choose and can't seem to get out of
Hi, I’m Cath, a qualified co-parenting coach and family mediator. I’ve seen this pattern play out hundreds of times in divorce and co-parenting dynamics. You cannot control your ex. But you can stop being pulled into patterns that leave you drained, reactive and resentful. The Detour is where that work starts.
