Calming Phrases Children Need to Hear
When the other house feels chaotic, unpredictable, or overwhelming

You can’t control what happens in the other home, but you can help your child feel safe, settled, and supported when they’re with you.

If your child comes back from the other house upset, withdrawn, angry, or “not quite themselves,” you might find yourself wondering:

• Am I saying the right thing?

• Am I making it worse by asking questions?

• How do I help them without putting them in the middle?

This free guide gives you simple, calming phrases that help children regulate their emotions after chaotic or dysregulating experiences, without blaming, probing, or escalating things.

These are the words children need to hear when:

• One home feels unpredictable or emotionally unsafe

• Transitions are hard

• They’re carrying feelings they don’t yet know how to name

No fixing.
No bad-mouthing.
No pressure on your child to explain or choose sides.

Just steady, supportive language that helps them feel held.

You don’t need perfect co-parenting to protect your child.

You just need to be the steady place they land.